Support and Empower Your Bullied Child: A Guide for Parents
Your Bullied Child
Your child is being tormented by a group of students at school. Snide comments, nasty rumors, “eye-rolling” have all become part of your child’s daily life. Your child has become increasingly depressed and often does not want to go to school. When you discussed these concerns with the principal, these things may have happened:
- The principal indicated a sincere concern about this situation and an intent to help make things better. The problem is that what the school is doing simply is not making things better.
- The principal told you that he or she has “handled the situation,” but cannot tell you how because this would violate the privacy of the offending student. The harm to your child was not remedied to and your child is now fearful of retaliation.
- You have been told: “They were just joking.” “Your child is overreacting.” “If he or she would stop __, this wouldn’t happen.”
- Perhaps your child’s own behavior and lack of social skills are part of the problem, but you do not know how to help your child make positive changes and no one at the school is assisting.
- Or worse, because students are constantly bullying your child, your child got angry and lashed out and therefore is the one who has been punished.
- Perhaps the source of hurtful attitudes that are leading to the bullying of your child are coming from other parents, community, or school staff.
If your child is being bullied, he or she is experiencing emotional distress and is also losing his or her right to receive an education in an environment that is safe and welcoming. This is wrong and needs to be corrected!
What the Research Says
What most schools are currently doing to prevent and respond to bullying is not achieving positive results.
Students think that staff are not doing enough to address bullying and are not effective when responding to hurtful incidents they witness. Further, students frequently do not report hurtful incidents to the school and, when they do report, things often do not improve. Students often do not trust that reporting will make things better—and fear it will make things worse.
The rate at which students report being bullied on surveys has been holding steady or increasing over the last years. Several analyses of studies of bullying prevention approaches have determined that these approaches have minimal to no positive effect, with zero effectiveness at the secondary level.
Educators are not entirely at fault. The dismal results are not because they do not care or don’t want things to be better. One problem is fact that schools have been forced to maintain a myopic focus on stupid tests and most have insufficient resources.
However, another challenging concern is that what educators have been told about bullying behavior is not accurate and the compliance based approach (rules and punishment) they have been told to use will always be ineffective.
It is exceptionally hard to shift educational systems to make positive changes. Your child should not have to suffer from this. I can help!
About the Book
Support and Empower Your Bullied Child: A Guide for Parents provides a powerfully positive strategy parents can use to ensure that schools effectively address the concerns of bullying of their child or teen.
Support and Empower Your Bullied Child: A Guide for Parents provides parents with insight into legal protections for students who are being bullied and guidance on how to effectively document what is happening to ensure appropriate attention by the principal. Parents are encouraged to request restoration and remedy of the harm, rather than punishment–and to insist that the school engage in necessary actions to improve its climate.
Extensive research-based guidance is provided on strategies to empower children and teens who are being bullied to assist them in becoming more self-confident, resilient, and respond effectively if someone is hurtful. Further, guidance is provided to encourage bullied children and teens to become Helpful Allies who step in to help others who are being treated badly.
Information is provided to parents about the nature of bullying, the challenges in addressing bullying at school, and positive strategies they can recommend to schools. Support and Empower Your Bullied Child: A Guide for Parents is a book for parents who want to become activists–not only to support and empower their child, but improve the well-being of all students in their school.
The Problem and the Solution
This book has been written to help provide you with the insight necessary to make things better for your child. This book addresses:
- Insight into the nature of bullying and its concerns.
- Evidence that the current bullying prevention approach is not working and insight into why.
- Legal protections for your bullied child.
- Strategies to prepare and make your case for the need for more effective intervention in the situation facing your child.
- Insight into an effective intervention approach to be used with the student(s) who are being hurtful.
- Practical strategies you can use to empower your child with greater resilience.
- Strategies you can use to encourage your child to be a Helpful Ally to reach out to help another student who is being treated badly.